So I Know It’s Real [ Part I ]

I always say that the only way I know it’s “real” is if you make me a Spotify (or your mode/medium of choice — it could be an old school “burned” mix CD for all I care) playlist. And I mean it.

When I say “it’s real”, it can mean any number of things. But if you purport to feel any kind of way (good, bad, ugly or otherwise) about me, the only way I’ll take it seriously is if there is a playlist attached to it.

Do you miss me? Do you want me? Are you sorry? Do you hate me? Do you love me? Make me a playlist.

That said, this playlist is for you. You’ll know who you are if you listen to it. This playlist is intentional (and carefully curated). I don’t know if you’ll stumble across this. I guess that’s for the universe to decide. Not you, but you. You know who you are.

But y’all should listen to it, too. There are some dope tracks.

Codependency Classics.

The other day, as I was watching Taking the Stage: African American Music and Stories That changed America, Gladys Knight performed Midnight Train to Georgia — this song always blows my mind. I can feel it. It’s visceral.

In any case, I posted the lyrics, “I’d rather live in his world, than live without him in mine” to my Facebook timeline. Fuck. Those words are so damn deep. They make me teary. Because I’ve loved that much before.

So, people were liking and digging my stat; I mean, who doesn’t love that song? So, one of my friends posted, “Codependency Classics” (then proceeded to acknowledge that she was a jerk, ha). Then it dawned on me — it is a codependency anthem.

Codependency is defined as excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner. Further, some of the hallmarks of codependency are poor boundaries, reactivity, control, etc. Okay.

So the jist of Midnight Train to Georgia is a lovelorn woman who packs up and follows her man to chase his dreams (which ultimately fail) — because after all, she’d rather live in his world than live without him in hers.

Consider the hallmarks of codependency I’ve listed above.

After some more dialogue on my Facebook, it was mentioned that virtually all of the classics are codependent mantras. I agree.

So much so, that I created a playlist on Spotify called “Codependency Classics, V.1”.

Take a listen/look for yourself. I’m sure I’ll expound at a later time.